Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Friendship.........

None of that
'Sis'-sy Stuff

Are you tired of those
sissy 'friendship' poems
that always sound good,

but never actually come close
to reality?
Well, here is a series of promises that actually speak of
True Friendship.

You WON'T see  
cute little smiley faces
on this card- no buddy

Just the stone cold truth
of our great friendship.

1. When you are sad,
I will jump on the person
who made you sad
like a spider monkey
jacked up on Mountain Dew!!!

 
 
 
2. When you are blue,
I will try to dislodge
whatever ischoking you.
 
 
 
3. When you smile,
I will know you are
plotting something
that I must be involved in.

 
 
 
4. When you're scared,
we will high tail it out of here.

 
 
5. When you are worried,
I will tell you horrible stories about how much worse
it could be until you
quit whining, ya big baby!!!!
 
 
 
6. When you are confused,
I will use little words.
 
 
 
7. When you are sick,
Stay away from me
until you are well again.
I don't want whatever you have.

 
 
 
8. When you fall,
I'll pick you up
and dust you off--

After I laugh my butt off!!
 
 
 
9. This is my oath...
I pledge it to the end.
'Why?' you may ask;

-- because you are my FRIEND!


 
 

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Friendship is like peeing in your pants,
everyone can see it,
but only YOU
can feel the
true warmth.

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Monday, September 15, 2008

Slumber party recap and other mumble jumble

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On Friday my daughter had a slumber party with EIGHT friends of hers. If any of you have never dared to try this I would advise against it lmao! No really it went pretty good over all. We were supposed to pick all the girls up after school and got a frantic call from Ray about an hour before school was done that only 2 of the 8 girls remembered to bring notes from home! The teacher said she talked to the principal and they could not ride home with us without them.

Hubby was a good sport about it all and went and picked Ray and 2 of her friends up then met the busses in each girls neighborhood to pick up the rest of them. An hour later began the chaos and noise ;) I had cut up watermelon and strawberries for a snack so when they all got here they sat around and had a bite to eat.

I made up a game called the funniest scavenger hunt ever and they were split into 4 teams and colors. Hubby and I sat on our couch and judged and OH MAN was it funny! I really wish there would have been a 3rd person here to take pictures. I got a before and ending pic though that I will share. They all had a ton of different items in their baskets they had to run to the basket find the item and were instructed to do specific things with each item. They were all good sports. One was to together tie 25 diaper pail bags into a rope, once done run to us and take turns wrapping the bags around each other's waist. The second one had to keep wearing it for the rest of the game. Another one was one teammate snap a glow stick and the other had to carry it with their toes with the other teammate keeping one finger on them the whole way back to me. Another was with ring pops, they had to open them and come running to us and pronounce their everlasting friendship to one another. It was so funny! The whole game was a blast.

After that we ordered pizza and ate. One of the girls had to leave to go to a dance thing for 2 hours and her mom came right as we were cutting the Dairy Queen ice cream cake. So we saved her a piece for when she got back at 8:30. After pizza and cake all the girls ran around outside with 3 of our neighbor's girls for almost 2 hours.

Right at cake time my sister, nephew and her friend showed up. My sister was SO upset with my mom! I will get to that in a bit. Aedan had fun flirting with all these girls ;)

Ray opened her presents then they all played games like spoons and around 11 I made 4 bowls of popcorn and they all laid down to watch a movie and fall asleep. We turned our guest bedroom into a huge bed with air mattresses and blankets. It worked everyone had somewhere to sleep.

There was only one girl who seemed to be the one creating problems all through out the evening. I felt bad for Ray because by popcorn and movie time she came to me and said "Mom I don't wanna have a sleepover next year for my birthday" lol! She felt like she was playing mediator the whole night.

The next morning we all woke up and hubby and I made french toast, sausage, and bacon for breakfast. Ray and couple girls picked up the guest bedroom. I went down and got her and told her to come eat I WILL FINISH cleaning when everyone leaves. She was trying to hard to help and I was telling her be a kid lol

About 30 minutes after everyone left her dad picked her up for the night. So I spent most of Saturday cleaning. By that night I was so ready to sit down and do nothing at all. But my house was spotless and smelled great so it was all good!

Back to my sister and mom. My mom has been drinking just as much as ever from what I hear. On Friday my mom decided to log onto my sister's AOL or AIM (Not sure which one) account and pretend to be her for a bit then tell her current BF it was actually her (my mom). She proceeded to act like a 6 year old and say inappropriate things to this young man. This current BF of hers is the best thing that ever happened to my sister! He doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, he has a fulltime job, he is beyond respectful to everyone in his life, he treats my sister with nothing but respect and care, he is a great influence in her life period! So my mom decided to air my sister's dirty laundry so to speak to this BF. She told him lies and some truths.

I have old school beliefs, meaning honesty, you do not mess aroundwhen committed to someone, you tell the truth, you pretty much give all of yourself and more to the person you love. My sister lives in a different generation who unfortunately learned from the best and had no guidance to learn to live the right way. My mom has always spoiled my sister to make up for the drinking and the hurt she causes her. I have done the best I can for the last 18 years to try to teach her the most important values in life but my mom has taught her what she wants she gets and nothing and I mean NOTHING is off limits!

So my mom was completely out of line (AS USUAL!) doing what she did because if she cared she would not try to destroy the best thing that has happened to her. But hubby and I told my sister that what was done was done and she couldn't change it but she could use this as a time to put all cards on the table with her BF and start fresh. Trust is earned and his got shook Friday night. He is still with her trying to make sense of it all but she needs to be fair to him and give him the same loyalty he gives her.

My mom is so unpredictable and the things she does to hurt her kids she doesn't even realize half the time. She thinks in some weird twisted way that she is doing the right thing. Some of you may remember me talking in a previous entry how anything that could rock the boat my mom deals with only drunk. She takes the drunk approach and it is almost always inappropriate period. You cannot reason with a drunk. If she mothered her kids the way a parent should she has every right to be upset with my sister. But drunk and nasty is not the way to come at a problem. Everytime my mother does something like this that has one of so upset and crying and heartbroken it pushes me to continue being the mother I am. It pushes me to always keep going (Even when things get rough) because I REFUSE to ever let my children hurt the way my siblings and I do over the things our mother has chose to do or not do. There will never be a day in my kids lives that they need me and I am not there. I never want them to know what it feels like to need some love or nurturing and pretty much get smacked in the face because alcohol is more important.

Yet everytime something like this happens. She never ceases to amaze me. What happened with my son wasn't rock bottom, so in my eyes she has no rock bottom. I love her so much but I have so much anger and bitterness towards her and I honestly cannot say I will ever talk to her again. If she would have got herself into rehab and tried to get better I would have. But hearing how much she is drinking and the things she is doing still, I cannot bring myself back into that and sure the hell will not let my kids be a part of it again.

It is getting chilly here in MN! Heat is on today. What else has been going on?? My MIL and SIL had a huge garage sale Thurs-Sat. On Thursday I spent the day over there. We had a ball chatting away in the garage. Hubby has been sick for a few days now. I think he has a sinus infection. Today he seemed better so that is good! Well I will wrap this up for now and add some pictures from the slumber party!

Everyone have a great week!

Hugs and love, Robyn

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Scavenger hunt baskets.....
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Wonder why they were hyper???
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Party time....
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Reading the rules of scavenger hunt.....
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Hunt done.....
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She must have liked that present lol....
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To be young again!!
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Everyone ate cake in the garage to share with 3 neighbor girls....
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Monday, September 8, 2008

Happy Birthday Rayanna!!

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My daughter Rayanna turned 12 today!! Hard to believe in just 3 years she will be able to drive :( Man they grow up fast! I am so proud of her. She has a heart of gold and is the most giving, smart girl you could ever meet. So to my beautiful daughter.........Happy Birthday baby girl. I love you with all of my heart!

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Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Lessons for life.......

Lessons for life

 
There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She
hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for
her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry
you.'

 
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the
bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.
He asked her, 'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?'

 
The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his
closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking
at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

 
Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying,
'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'

 
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.
Only a very few remember what life was like before and who was
always by their side in the most painful situations.

 

Thought of the day......

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Whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.

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