Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Decided to delete the entry more to come later




nelishianatl said...

I'm in tears just reading this.  You are grieving in so many directions at once.  This is as bad as it gets for the kids.  I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with.  I totally support you in what you choose to do.  I think I would press charges but you never know until you're standing in someone elses shoes.  I'll definitely be praying about the tests.  I want you to be ok.  Please be ok.  I've worried and waited for an answer on what happened to you all.

Love you,

You can write me anytime.


sunnybethe said...

You typed it just fine hunny.  I couldn't beleive as I was reading what happened.  Though I knew it was bad because I can telllyou realy love your PSP/Ani. Yes, your priority was to take care of your familly.  It's going to take a while and you know we all will pray for you and you rafamily.  I hope your mother gets some help.  Good luck tomorrow, I'll be thinkng of you.  hugs,  Bethe

am4039 said...

wow I was shaking when reading this. I don't know what I would have done to my mother. I'm so very sorry that you and your kids had to go through something this awful. Many prayers and hugs to you and family and good luck at the doctor.

thegirlnexdoor77 said...

I so know what you are going through my son was beaten by the babysitter and it was a really bad beating..I will be praying for you all!  Big Big hugs,TerryAnn

nay0114 said...

I just sitting here in SHOCK. I knew it was something big for you to leave for awhile. I'm so sorry that you are going through all this. OMGosh I don't know if I would be so forgiving (well I don't really mean forgiving) even if she was my mother I think I would have pressed charges. She needs a rude awakening of some kind and unfortunately that is all that helps people with those kinds of problems.
Like you said your son knows he got hurt, but time is not really understood or who actually did it. BUT your poor daughter will remember this for the rest of her life. I'm so sad for that and thank the Lord that they are okay.
I'm sorry, but I have no sympathy for your mom. I sure hope she gets the help she needs before she does something worse, if that is possible.
I hope that your tests come out okay. I'm glad to hear that you are trying to quit smoking. I will pray that nothing is wrong and you heal soon.
Hugs, Chrissie

ashleekr said...

I am so sorry, Robyn.  I really don't even know what to say.  Alcoholism is a terrible disease, as I have had issues with it myself, but if that doesn't wake your mom up, nothing will.  As for smoking, I am a smoker also, and, yes, we think "it will never happen to us."  Both of my grandfathers died from lung cancer, yet I still do it.  Prayers for you and your family.........

springangel235 said...

I am so sorry this happened...and my prayers to your son...and hope and pray your Mom gets the help she so needs now.  Prayers for yout too Robyn...and hope all he test are neg.   hugs and love to you,

tpiez4me said...

((((((((ROBYN))))))))  How horrible.  Your daughter was so brave and smart - she needs a medal for saving her brother!  Mother or not, JAIL!  But I do understand - my Dad is an alky and if he would have done this to my Miss T there'd be no second thought.  Healing will be slow for the kids, please consider a counselor or pastor to talk with them.
As for you - wow - all that and now a biopsy.  Praying for you and yours honey!  I hear Chantrix really works.


apaws2chat said...

Hi Robyn

Sorry, to hear of your family's situation.  It sounds like your Mom has been an alcoholic for a long time, and may be you had some issues in your own childhood.  Then you should have an incline that drunks do not know what they are doing and cannot be responsible for their own actions, however bad they might be.

Not that i am taking sides with your Mom - No Way!
Yes, I would report her to the Police, don't let her get away with what she has done, she may do it to her other grandchildren!

Best wishes for a good outcome from your biopsy. Keep in touch
Hugs Linda

jeanno43 said...

What a truly awful experience for your two children and more especially for your son.  Please think again, you mother needs to be arrested, surely it is not too late to report it??  She is your mother and it will be very hard for her but maybe that is just the shock she needs to pull herself together and your children must know that people cannot do bad things and get away with it.  However hard, I would have no qualms about reporting to the police if I was in your situation.  Please do not let her get away with it.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.


momiscool2 said...

Hi Robyn
My name is Michelle

I am so sorry for what you and your children are going through.
Please know that you are in my daily thoughts and prayers.

I have a son who is autistic - and he used to be in his own world too and I know the type of behavior are talking about - Your daughter did a GREAT job trying to protect him - she is a great sister!!!

I am praying that all the tests come back fast and that they come back clean.

I'm going to email you.

Love and hugs.

lattedah711 said...

It was hard to read this entry.  I don't care who it was Mother or not, that person should pay dearly for the trauma she put those children through.  Alcoholics hide behind their disease and get away with wayyyy to many things.  Its time they start to pay.  
My prayers to your and your family during this time for the abuse and hoping your Dr. appt. turns our OK.  

seraphoflove9001 said...

I'm so very sorry Robyn. I live with an alcholic and that was pretty much similar to what I go through as well. I pray that your mother can get the much needed help and so many hugs to you and your children.

lsfp1960 said...

Hello Robyn, I came from the "Call for Support" journal.  What an awful thing to happen.  I'd say it's time for an intervention as far as your mom is concerned.  She needs to go into treatment~immediately!!!  She has now endangered a life, she needs help & now!  Please do this along with your siblings before someone else is injured seriously or even worse.  As for your smoking...my significant other quit smoking almost cold turkey about 8 years agao after smoking 2-3 packs a day for over 40 years.  He used over the counter dramamine to counteract some of the icky feelings he had when he was withdrawing from the nicotine.   Your children and husband need you to be healthy...Praying for complete healing of your dear little Josh and the rest of the family.
Linda in Washington state

justplainbill said...

Robyn, I will be praying for you and your family. After this it has to get better, Bill

salemslot9 said...

hopefully, this is rock bottom for your mother
there's a chance she will seek help
if she doesn't
I'd never speak to her, again
I'll say a prayer for you and your children
in Jesus name

madcobug said...

I am sending up prayers for all your family. I pray that this happening will leave your son's mind forever and may it grow dim in your daughter's mind. She did great in trying to protect him. Did all she could and knew to do. She got him away and in a safe place. Bless her heart. I pray that your tests all turn out negative and that with God's help that you can quit smoking. Your mom needs help as soon as possible. Next time she could very well kill someone. Hugs for you and your family. Helen

jjdolfin9 said...

I am so sorry Robyn.  I can only imagine the emotions that you are going through right now.  I pray that Josh will not remember any of it and that your daughter will heal as well.  This was a very traumatic event for her as well.  I hate what alcohol does to people.  It is so beyond me that they can't see how it affects those around them.  Now she has hurt her own grandchild maybe it will dawn on her that she needs help.  
Hugs, Joyce

sybilsybil45 said...

I have just popped by to add my love to the many who have called already. It is a decastating situation and I can only leave you ALL in our Lords caring hands. Although he may seem far away at the moment I hope our prayers will see you through.  Love Sybil.

mutualaide said...

Hi Robyn, I am new to your journal ... a caring on-line friend has sent my your way.  First let me say that I am sure that you can stop smoking ... regardless your test results, because I did.  I never thought I would.  It's been two years ... so when you are struggling remember it is doable ... it just isn't easy.

I cannot not imagine how saddened, hurt and frustrated you are by what happened to your son (and daughter) while in your mother's care.  But Iam sure that you and your husband are the best parents that you can be.  You have removed your son and other children from the situation and have no intentions of going back ... there isn't much else you can do about it.

Adding my good thoughts and prayers to your day.  

sugarsweet056 said...

I'm late getting to alerts today, sending up prayers for sour son & your family.
God bless,

lv2trnscrb said...

came over from Call for Support; I am so sorry; I can't even imagine; I will keep your family in my prayers



jckfrstross said...

I am so sorry for this, Nelisha sent me over. You are all in my prayers. I have added you to my alerts so i will be back


pamal3 said...

I am really saddened to read this entry. I will keep you and your children In my thoughts and prayers. Love Pam xx

swmpgrly said...

Omg I am sooo sooo sorry you have had to deal with this and the poor kids too.
We try to protect our kids but there is only so much we can humanly do.
I will send many prayers your way for no cancer as well as the strength to quit smoking.

rebarks said...

I just read this post while on vacation in CA. I was shocked and saddened to learn what happened to your son. It is indeed a sad thing to have someone he loves  hurt him in that way. Your Mom is a sick woman and does need help. This terrible incident should be a turning point to get her into treatment. If you are too angry then your other family members need to have an intervention so that she finally realizes what she has done. I am sending my prayers to your family and hope you all can heal from this incident.

bgilmore725 said...

Robyn, I pray that your mom gets help to stop drinking...and that you are able to quit smoking, and that your son doesn't remember that night, and that your daughter is able to forgive herself for not knowing what to do... although, she did the right thing. She may think she didn't act soon enough, but I would have been frozen in fear and shock if it had happened to me. I think she responded appropriately in the end, and saved her brother from further abuse and trauma. Considering how traumatic it was for her, I thought she handled it as well as she could. She may need counseling to deal with this, because your mother may not be the bad person that the drinking has made her into. I will pray for peace and healing in your family. bea

chevyz71gurl74 said...


Omg girl...I am so so sorry about all that has taken place, my heart just aches for you and your kids....so sad!

I do hope your mom is able to get some help....

My thoughts and prayers will be with you tomorrow...may God give you the comfort and strength to get through these trying times....

Big Hugs!

preciousone25 said...

Robyn, My first time at your journal... came by to offer what support I can.... I'm so sorry for what's happened, what a horrible situation ... I hope your mom will realize now that she needs to get help, maybe check into a rehab.  I'm glad that your siblings are so understanding and are there to help you.  I'm glad that you were able to get a place right away to move out of your mom's house.  And I'm glad that your son doesn't remember who hurt him.... I'm sorry for your daughter who saw it all, and I pray that healing comes soon for ALL involved.  Keep us posted on how the kids are (and you too!!).


nightmaremom said...

sending, hugs, prayers, good vibes, and strength.

sanguinelioness said...

Hi Robyn,
I have come by way of Call for Support. I am so very sorry for all that you and you kids have endured. You will all be in my prayers and I pray that your tests come back negative for any type of cancer as you fear.
I must say, I have to agree with those who feel that your mother needs to take responsibility for what she did to your children. She will not get better if allowed to slide and simply "not remember" the horrific things she did. She must be held accountable and get into treatment. She has more problems than just substance abuse, but that needs to be tackled first. You are not doing her any favors really.
I have three children of my own and I am a therapist. I just want you to know that I would murder in my heart if anyone harmed any one of my kids. I am so very sorry. Your daughter is so brave and so smart. What an amazing young girl!
God bless all of you. Please know you are all in my prayers.

mleppard06 said...

sending you all hugs and healing thoughts. mrs t xx

pprrrr39 said...


I am so very, very shocked at reading this story. It is like a horror story, i felt sick reading it. No child should ever have to go through abuse like that, never ever !!!

I am sorry, but mother or no mother you need to report her. Ok while i agree with you that she needs help, she also needs to face up to what she has done. I do not know how the judical system works over there, but will she not get help if she is reported ??

I cannot begin to imagine what you and the children are going through right now, your daughter was a very brave girl saving her brother like that. I can imagine the trauma that she must be going through reliving that nightmare.
I am sorry if i sound calous.......... but those children are going to traumatised by all this and they also need help. Please do not feel that i am judging you or having a go at you, that is not my intention at all, but i will admit to being outspoken and the way i see it you have to report this and all persons involved need to get help. It is such a sad thing to have to happen to children so young.

My thoughts and prayers are with you guys right now. I hope that you can feel the support that you have here in JLand.

hugs Jayne

pprrrr39 said...


Sorry was so taken up with that story that i forgot to wish you well with your tests. I do hope that everything is ok
hugs Jayne

mereel2005 said...

I am in shock! I cannot begin to imagine the emtions you are going through and the pain in your and your family's heart. I will not beging to come up with some pearl of wisdom.
Just tell you that I shall be praying for you and your family.
Gentles hugs from Virginia

kirkbyj05 said...

Dear Robyn,

I have come to my alerts late and missed your entry of what happened to your darling son and daughter.
I am so sorry your world has turned upside down and that you are all devastated and hurt by your mother's actions.  Praying for you all that you soon leave all this awful trauma behind you and that your mum gets the help she needs too.
God bless you all and good luck with your test results.
Fondest good wishes.

Jeanie xxx

rdautumnsage said...

I'm sorry to have missed what is unfolding in your life dear friend. I will keep you and yours in my thoughts and prayers on the smoke. (Hugs)Indigo

queeniemart said...

I read the entry......more than once...and if you need me, call or write. I love you my friend.....YOU ARE A GREAT MOM...stick to your first instinct. HUGE prayers for you.

jmoqueen said...

I'm also sorry to have missed what you wrote I think I caught the jist of it when I was skimming it the other day but I just want to say (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) to you Robyn I can't imagine what it's like to go through what you are going through.  If you need me you know I'm here for you xxx